Hello creative badass! It’s been awhile, hasn’t it?
I’ve been DEEP in finishing my second novel, editing, formatting, and now preparing for its July 3rd launch. It’s been fun, but crazy, and I still have much more preparation to do!
When it’s time to balance my priorities, writing comes first, as many of you agree with!
It’s a juicy topic and one I know many of you can relate to…
THE MOST ANNOYING QUESTIONS WE GET AS WRITERS
You know what ones I’m talking about…
“Are you still doodling?”
“Are you still playing around with writing?”
“Are you published yet?”
“Are you JUST self published?”
“Do you have an agent yet?”
“Are you making any money yet?”
“Do people actually buy your books?”
“Are you successful?”
“Can you really make a living off that?”
At first glance, these seem like harmless questions that come from genuine curiosity, and sometimes they totally are!
But you can usually tell when the person asking has an edge of doubt in their voice.
Or when they are measuring your results to THEIR definition of success.
Writers often struggle with self doubt without any help from other people, so when we get that nagging feeling that we’re being judged or doubted by others, it can make us want to curl up into a ball and hide.
It can make us not want to talk about our writing journey at all.
In a perfect world, the questions others ask us would be:
“Are you having fun?”
“Do you love what you do?”
“Do you feel good about your accomplishments?”
“Are you fulfilled?”
“Are you excited?”
“Are you enjoying the journey?”
To be honest, when someone asks me something like, “Are you making any money yet?” I tend to freeze and get tongue tied.
Because, yes, I am technically making money, but I KNOW by the tone in the other person’s voice that it isn’t the amount they want to hear in order to consider me successful.
However, we can’t control other’s perspectives. Only our own. We are in charge of our responses and our confidence as writers.
I’ve made it my mission to respond to these questions in a more confident way from now on.
I got some great ideas from the livestream and from journaling about this. That very day I got the opportunity to put these answers to the test, and they totally shifted the tone of an initially skeptical coversation!
Now when people ask these annoying questions, I’m prepared to say:
“Yes, I’m successful. I’m reaching all my goals!”
“Yes, I’m successful. I’m having the best year of my life.”
“Yes, I’m making money doing something I love.”
“Yes, I’m self-published because I LOVE being a writer-preneur.”
“Yes, I’m self-published, and I’m SO glad that I am.”
“Yes, I’m proud to be an indie author.”
“Yes, I’m getting amazing feedback from my readers!”
Want to dig deeper? Check out the video! There were some AMAZING suggestions (thanks Bernadette!) that totally shifted how I craft my responses from now on.
How do you respond to questions like this? Comment below and let me know!
I hope your writing journey is fun, fulfilling, and driven by passion.
Remember, when you have multiple definitions for success, you will ALWAYS be a successful author, no matter how other people define success.
What matters is YOUR definition, fulfillment, and joy!
That’s all for now!
Wishing you a wonderfully joyful writing week!
Love, light, and all the magic,